What is Anticipatory Grief?

Published on Monday, 22 July 2013 09:00
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Fotolia 40163404 XSGrief and bereavement are two words that are often used interchangeably. But grief is actually different than bereavement. Bereavement is the period of sadness that occurs after the death of a loved one. Grief is the emotional response to the loss. One form of grief is called, Anticipatory Grief. It occurs when you know a loss is coming.

Some aging experts believe that anticipatory grief is both the easiest and the hardest form of grief to process. If your loved one has Alzheimer’s disease or terminal cancer, you know a loss is coming. Your mind begins to accept that and you start to envision your life without your loved one. At the same time, you feel guilty for thinking and planning for a life without them.

Anticipatory grief can also be a rollercoaster for loved ones. Take the case of a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease. It is often referred to as “the long goodbye”. Families struggle as they watch the toll the disease takes on someone they love. They often wish the struggle would just end for their loved one, and that sentiment creates guilt for them. They feel guilty for wishing their loved one’s life would end, even though their wish is actually for an end to their suffering.

What are the symptoms of anticipatory grief?

If you think you or another family member is suffering from anticipatory grief, first know that it is a normal part of the grieving process.

The signs that someone has anticipatory grief include:

While not everyone experiences anticipatory grief, many caregivers do. Especially if their loved one has an extended illness.

How can you cope or help another family member cope with anticipatory grief?

There are a variety of ways to help yourself or someone else who is experiencing anticipatory grief.

Remember, the gift of time to say goodbye can be very healing. Allow yourself that time to go through the process of anticipatory grief and bereavement. 

Have you been the caregiver for someone with a terminal illness? Did you understand what anticipatory grief was? 

We’re here to answer questions and help you make the best decision for care for you or your loved one. We invite you to reach out and talk with one of our care specialists at Fall River Jewish Home today! CALL 1.508.679.6172, where assistance is just a phone call away. 

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